If you don't want your relationship to become your nightmare, then don't waste your time dating or marrying someone who does not love you and who does not respect you.
Any relationship without love and mutual respect will become your nightmare.
Therefore, do your best to avoid such a loveless miserable relationship from the beginning. Don't wait until you are already trapped in the quagmire of broken promises, conceit, deceit, unfaithfulness, disrespect and insecurity. Just get out of the shit without worsening your predicament.
Let me post the full meaning of quagmire for you to fully understand what I mean.
noun: quagmire; plural noun: quagmires
a soft boggy area of land that gives way underfoot.
"torrential rain turned the building site into a quagmire"
synonyms: swamp, morass, bog, peat bog, marsh, mire, quag, marshland, fen, slough, quicksand; More
bayou, pocosin, moor;
"the rains arrived and the area was transformed into a red quagmire"
an awkward, complex, or hazardous situation.
"a legal quagmire"
synonyms: muddle, mix-up, mess, predicament, unfortunate/difficult/awkward situation, mare's nest, quandary, entanglement, tangle, jumble, imbroglio;
If you are not happy in any relationship, it is time to get out of it.
Don't force yourself to continue to bear the apologies and regrets.
Your happiness and security should be your first and foremost priority in every relationship.
Don't make your relationship another Tyler Perry's "For Better or Worse" or the earlier "For Better, for Worse" of 1919 by Cecil B. DeMille, because even though millions have been fooled and misled by it in wedding vows, "For Better For Worse" is not biblical and not from the Word of God or Jesus Christ, so it is not a Christian vow and should be deleted from wedding vows, because it has made many unhappy couples to remain trapped and stuck in unhappy relationship or marriage until things go from bad to worse when the victimized lover or spouse should have left and save his or her life from the recurrent nightmares of woes.
Yes “for better or for worse” as contained in the vows that a bride and groom exchange on their wedding day is a promise for the couple to remain married come rain or shine, no matter the consequences of the circumstances of life. But it would be foolish and suicidal to remain married to someone who no longer loves or respects you and when your life is in danger. Please, leave before it is too late.
Love is not by force and marriage is not by force.
But securing your happiness and peace is a must.
~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, author of Diary of the Memory Keeper and other best selling books distributed by Amazon, Barnes & Noble and other international book publishers and booksellers worldwide.